I’ll define guilt as feeling badly about something I have done and shame as feeling badly about who I am being (1). Defined as such, I’ll suggest there exists healthy and unhealthy (2) shame, just like there exists healthy and unhealthy guilt (and most emotions). ‘Who I am being’ is a variable my choice can […]
These processes can be meaningful to go through with any loved ones who are nearing passing. Given that your life came from theirs, helping your parents complete their lives tends to be particularly meaningful. Help them make a timeline of their life. All the big events, starting with their birth and earliest memories, up to
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I write this in appreciation and honor for my father. And with the hope that men who may not have had the same type of unreasonable father-fortune that I had, may benefit to some degree from reading whats shared here. When I was a kid, my Dad was a sort of god to me. As
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This message is meant for men who have experienced a woman feeling badly about a sexual experience with them, and would like to prevent that type of experience in the future. (It may also be useful for women who want to avoid having sexual experiences they regret later.) There are some fairly simple guidelines to
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Advancing Human Sovereignty Sovereignty relates to the capacity for and demonstration of good (omni-positive) choice-making. We define sovereignty more formally as the product of sentience, intelligence, and agency. Sentience relates to one’s ability to sense the world (including inner sensing of self and vicarious inner sensing of others). It includes qualities like awareness, empathy, mindfulness,
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What does it mean when I say I love you? First, it means that I see you. I see the feeling, experiencing being that you are. I see your sensitivity, and your strength. I see your irreplaceable uniqueness: there has never been nor will there ever be another one like you. What possible price tag
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In this podcast episode, Charles Eisenstein and I discuss some of the foundations of my worldview as we discuss exponential tech, self-terminating social and technological processes, the future of humanity, the nature of the present crisis, and the necessity of a transition to non-rivalrous systems. You can find this podcast and more information about A
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Nora Bateson 2019 For years I have written about the systemic crises of our times in terms of tenderness, and rawness. I have exposed my inner world in its morphing potential. I have felt it important to offset the many graphs and articles that blaze facts of climate change, people trafficking, addiction, immigration crisis, racism
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sense making sneaking in If place makes me Then maybe I don’t exist. And if the memory of redwood dust is enough to find outlines Then maybe I am still 9 Home. Is a long story, And I am the ink, the song, the characters. I am the shoes. the dusty windowsill, and
(This is a chapter from my book Small Arcs of Larger Circles, published by Triarchy Press, 2016) I would love you as a bird loves flight, as meat loves salt, as a dog loves chase, as water finds its own level. Or I would not love you at all. —Jeanette Winterson, Gut Symmetries In
