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This content was posted on 28 Sep 19 by Daniel Schmachtenberger on Blog
Healthy Shame
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I’ll define guilt as feeling badly about something I have done and shame as feeling badly about who I am being (1). Defined as such, I’ll suggest there exists healthy and unhealthy (2) shame, just like there exists healthy and unhealthy guilt (and most emotions). ‘Who I am being’ is a variable my choice can …
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